Welcome Back! Family Strategies for a Strong Start to the New School Year!
Parents and caretakers, there’s no better time than the first weeks of school to build a strong foundation for your child’s personal, social, and academic success.
We’re excited to share our Key Steps for a Successful School Year Toolkit, designed especially for the 2026–2027 school year! It features insights and strategies from experienced educators who are part of our Harmony Educator Advisory Group. These leaders have spent decades positively shaping classrooms and healthy learning across the country.
This toolkit isn’t just another back-to-school checklist. We’re offering practical, research-informed guidance to support your children in meaningful ways. Inside, you’ll find tools and tips to help your child:
Build strong, healthy relationships
Develop a sense of belonging at school
Feel seen, heard, and understood
Strengthen their overall wellness and mental health
Sanford Harmony at National University draws from years of research and educator experience to create resources that prioritize what truly matters: relationships, belonging, and well-being. These foundational factors pave the way for lifelong success in school and beyond.
We hope you use our toolkit – available in both English and Spanish – to help your children thrive both in and outside of the classroom.
Special thanks to our educators who contributed their voices and expertise to our toolkit:
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By: Miriam Blanc-Gonnet, Sr. Manager of User Strategy at Sanford Harmony
It’s that time of year again: notebooks, binders, and pencil pouches in vibrant colors and designs line the entryway of store aisles across the country. “Back to school” is upon us. Some of you may even already have your first week or two behind you.
As a former educator, I always felt equal parts excited and anxious in the weeks leading up to the first day of school. I could not wait to meet my students, and I planned all sorts of fun “get to know you” activities for us to do together. At the same time, I also couldn’t stop thinking about how that first day might go. Worries like, “Do I still remember how to teach?” or “When that 8 a.m. bell rings, will I still know what to do?” would race through my mind.
As we approach the beginning of another year, I want to remind you of something: your students are both excited and anxious, too — you are in this together. I encourage you to take this first week of school slowly and use it to foster relationships, develop community, put routines into place, and take care of yourself in the process. And if you’re looking for support for creating the best healthy learning environment, Sanford Harmony has resources to help you do just that.
Building a Community
To make the start of your school year a bit smoother, the Harmony Curriculum includes aBuilding Community Pre-Unit to guide you through your first ten days of school. The lessons within this unit offer simple relationship-building routines and activities designed to help both you and your students settle in and connect with each other.
During the first week, you’ll introduce Meet-Up, starting with simple steps like Greeting and Sharing and Responding.
For example, on Day One, your students might use the “25 Ways to Say Hello” resource to greet each other in creative ways. You could also model “Sharing” by telling a short story about how you felt preparing for the first day — then invite students to share and respond in return. As the week progresses, you’ll introduce the additional components of Meet-Up: Checking-In and Connecting.Another key practice introduced early on is Harmony Goals, where students create both class and personal goals. These help build ownership and shared expectations, contributing to a sense of belonging and collaboration in your learning environment. Goal-setting also becomes a powerful tool for reflection and accountability as the year unfolds.
You’ll also introduce Buddy Up, a practice that encourages students to connect and collaborate with peers through age-appropriate prompts. Harmony’s updated Quick Connection Cards— designed for both classroom and out-of-school time — make this easy. Try one on the first day to help new buddy pairs break the ice:
Remember to Prioritize YOU!
In addition to this focus on developing community and establishing a routine, through the first few weeks (and the entire school year, really), you must prioritize filling your cup. 2019 National University Teacher of the Year and Educator Advisory Group member Tom Whisinnand (aka Mr. Whiz), has some great advice on this:
“Starting another school year can be a stressful time. There are many tasks that need to be accomplished and there is limited time to accomplish them. Starting a year by keeping YOUR personal worth in mind is mega-important!”
“Starting another school year can be a stressful time. There are many tasks that need to be accomplished and there is limited time to accomplish them. Starting a year by keeping YOUR personal worth in mind is mega-important! Teachers MUST look after their own well-being Just as we set up routines in our classrooms that empower students to embrace social, emotional, and academic learning, we MUST start the year by embedding these practices in our personal lives.”
Additionally, Mr. Whiz shares his tips for educator self-care during the upcoming school year.
“During this upcoming year, I will be looking after my own well-being in the following ways: 1) I will be visiting a gym on a regular basis; 2) I will create and maintain professional/personal work boundaries; AND 3) I will engage in a creative activity (painting/writing/drawing/producing YouTubes) at least once during any given weekend.”
Mr. Whiz is spot-on. You need to consider how you will maintain your own mental, emotional, and physical health during what is often a chaotic time.
Want a Little Extra?
Everything you need to implement Harmony is available to you at no cost through our Online Learning Portal — including full access to the Building Community unit, Everyday Practices, and digital storybooks.
We also know that many educators appreciate having ready-to-useand printed materials. That’s why we offer a selection of premium resources, designed to make implementation even easier.
Harmony Classroom Kit:
If you prefer having ready-to-use materials on hand, the Harmony Classroom Kit offers printed resources to support your implementation. It includes over 200 Quick Connection Cards for peer conversations, engaging story books for Pre-K–5th, a plush Z doll to help bring lessons to life, and grade-level literature guides developed to integrate relationship skills into literacy instruction. These tools help make Harmony even more accessible in your classroom.
We can’t wait to share our new app with you this fall! You will soon be able to encourage families to support their child’s development of essential skills, promote well-being, and strengthen relationships at home with the Harmony at Home app — designed to make it easy to extend classroom learning into everyday family life through quick, on-the-go activities. Follow us on social media for the launch date!
You’ve Got This!
Starting a new school year is a big deal — for you and your students. Remember to give yourself grace, celebrate the small wins, and prioritize connection over perfection. The learning will come — what matters most right now is helping your students feel like they belong.
We encourage you to get started exploring our Harmony Curriculum in the Harmony Online Learning Portal, and follow us on social media for more exciting updates this fall.
We hope you have an amazing start to the new school year!
Miriam Blanc-Gonnet, Sr. Manager of User Strategy at Sanford Harmony
Originally published on 08/06/2025, updated on 07/17/2026
It’s Time to Shine: 6 Trauma-Informed Theatre Practices to Ease Stress
It’s Time to Shine: 6 Trauma-Informed Theatre Practices to Ease Stress
By Jennifer Wienke, Trauma-Informed Educator Fairbanks, Alaska
It’s National Stress Awareness Month, and as a trauma-informed theater educator at the Fairbanks Academy of Community Theatre (FACT) in Fairbanks, Alaska, it’s the perfect time to share strategies to help mitigate youth and family stress.
“Life-changing” is a word communicated to the FACT team often in emails, social media posts, and in the area on an audition form that asks for additional information to work better with families. These are words we deem common in our work.
But for the families we work with? It is life-changing.
Before diving into trauma-informed practices, I want to share a story of a 14-year-old student we work with. After a summer camp two years ago, we received a thank-you card signed by an entire family (mom, dad, and big brother). Their child was in our week-long camp and was a new face for us. He was a quiet student who didn’t speak to us or others, but that’s common in the theater world. Everyone needs time to settle in before their light gets to shine. What we didn’t know was that he was nonverbal and didn’t speak until well into middle school, and after, only spoke to family and close friends.
This was the moment we realized the value of our work and how it affects the people in our world.
6 Trauma-Informed Theatre Practices
Trauma-informed theater practice is the backbone of my organization in Fairbanks. We provide a safe space for all students and families, meeting everyone where they are while exploring the arts. When my partner and I began our company, we designed every facet with the mindset of what we wanted in a youth program growing up — a place that could give us a chance to explore theater and feel safe and nurtured when our homes did not provide the support we needed.
In each of our programs, we focus on developing connections, fostering a predictable environment, creating a strong sense of belonging, and building self-esteem for the youth we serve. We work extensively on confidence-building interactions, and we understand that everyone has a story. Our students, of all ages, come to us with past traumas. Our job is to create a safe space that resists retraumatization.
In my presentation, “Act It Up”: Trauma-Informed Theater Practices for Every Classroom, we walk through a typical rehearsal and explore how intentional practices can help students combat and manage stress, including:
A predictable schedule and routine to create stability
Warm welcomes to help every student feel seen and heard
Regular emotional check-ins to support self-awareness and regulation
Clear communication and choice, including opportunities to ask questions and opt out if needed
Tools for success, such as a cast website for each program, with resources to build confidence throughout the project
Thoughtful daily reflections to help students recognize their growth and take pride in their contributions
How Harmony Supports My Community
Sanford Harmony resources have been pivotal in helping our process, especially when working with our teen mentors as directors in training or camp mentors. Our mentors always have Quick Connection Cards ready in their badge holders to help campers build connections, resolve conflicts, or offer brain breaks. Since our programs all take place outside of the school day, we utilize Harmony Out-of-School Time (OST) lessons in our work, especially with our youngest cast members. Even the Harmony mascot Z has been seen perched on our light board or hanging backstage in a youth production for a quick hug if needed!
Stress and anxiety can peak at this time of year, especially with state testing approaching. Many parts of the trauma-informed approach can help families and educators by providing easy-to-implement tools with social, personal, and academic learning concepts. With a focus on belonging, clear communication, and brain breaks, stressful days can be more manageable for everyone.
A Life-Changing Transformation
It has been two years since the 14-year-old nonverbal student came to us. Since that time, he has had three leading roles and tons of ensemble roles, has become a camp mentor, and learned how to do sound and instruct small youth groups. On our most difficult days, we think of these stories, and we are inspired all over again.
Whether it’s Stress Awareness Month or any other time, always remember to power through, knowing we must continue offering tools for every person to find their “shine”.
Jennifer Wienke is the current program development coordinator for Out-of-School programming in the Fairbanks North Star Borough School District. In her time off, she is the owner and director of the trauma-informed theater company, Fairbanks Academy of Community Theater. Jennifer is a proud member of the Harmony Educator Advisory Group.
The Air We Breathe: Why Psychological Safety Is the Foundation for Success in Schools
The Air We Breathe: Why Psychological Safety Is the Foundation for Success in Schools
By: Dr. Ruby Ababio-Fernandez
Imagine a school where teachers arrive early, work tirelessly, and care deeply about their students. The energy feels warm, even friendly. But underneath, something is missing.
The culture is congenial, not collegial. People prioritize being nice over being honest. When feedback happens, it’s often softened to maintain one another’s comfort. A teacher might say, “We know it’s hard and we’re all doing the best we can.” Another might say, “They observed me today, I’m not sure what they thought,” and no one probes further. Staff meetings are more call-and-response than dynamic exchanges. Heads nod in agreement, but hard questions stay unspoken.
Everyone is “doing the work,” but few stop long enough to critically name what isn’t working or to take creative risks. The result is a nice compliance that looks like harmony but actually masks a culture devoid of growth and progress.
This is what a lack of psychological safety looks like. The absence is subtle but powerful, a tightening in the air that limits curiosity and suppresses learning.
Psychological safety is the shared belief that within our community, it’s safe to take risks, ask questions, share feedback, admit mistakes, or challenge ideas without fear of embarrassment or punishment because who we are and what we bring here matters. It’s what makes innovation, trust, and genuine learning possible. Without it, people perform tasks, but transformation never happens.
In education, psychological safety is far from a nice-to-have; it’s an absolute must! It’s a structural condition that determines whether learning, equity, and excellence can thrive. When educators feel safe, they engage in honest reflection. They test new ideas and co-create a curriculum that honors diverse voices and experiences.
3 Ways Leaders Can Cultivate Psychological Safety in Turbulent Times
Make Psychological Safety a Design Principle, Not a Slogan
Leaders can’t simply declare that a school is safe, they must intentionally design for it. This begins with structures that invite reflection, dialogue, and learning from failure and experience. Protecting time for check-ins, debriefs, inquiry cycles, and feedback sessions where the goal isn’t evaluation, but shared growth. When leaders model curiosity and transparency, saying, “Here’s what I’m learning,” or “I missed that, let’s revisit it” they actually normalize imperfection and create permission for others to grow. This further models the structures and routines that educators implement in their classroom for students like community circles (see Harmony’s Meet Up practice).
Build Structures for Collaboration, Not Competition
In schools that thrive, adults learn together. They observe one another not to judge, but to discover. They analyze data collectively, not defensively. They challenge ideas, not people. They ask, “What are we not seeing?” and they do so not to assign blame, but to learn together.
Leaders can strengthen this culture by creating learning communities and protocols that encourage shared accountability where educators hold one another to their dreams, not just their duties. True collaboration replaces quiet compliance with dynamic engagement. Using quick community building activities, like Harmony’s Quick Connection Cards can help adults begin to safety and comfort in working together.
Attend to the External Pressures That Spill on Internal Climate
Today’s educators navigate a complex world. We are living out policies that are leaving real impact, including deep fear of physical safety and wellbeing that makes conversations about who we are individually, culturally, and socially feel risky. Diminishing resources continue to stretch emotional capacity thin. These external forces seep into school culture and can erode energy, confidence and trust. Leaders who name these pressures out loud, who make space for empathy, context, and humanity help staff feel seen and supported. Safety grows when people know their realities are acknowledged, not ignored.
When leaders commit to these practices, schools become what they were always meant to be: Places where adults and students can breathe, belong, and be brave together.
Psychological safety doesn’t make the work easy; it makes the work possible, even in turbulent times. When people feel safe enough to be real, they also feel safe enough to learn. And that’s where transformation begins — with the courage to show up as our full selves, together!
About Dr. Ruby Ababio-Fernandez
With an unyielding commitment to transforming the lives of adults, children, communities, and school systems, Dr. Ruby brings over 23 years of experience in education and leadership. She has held multiple senior roles, including Associate Vice President for Equity and Leadership Development at the New York City Leadership Academy (NYCLA), Deputy Superintendent, Senior Executive Officer, and Chief Strategy Officer for the New York City Department of Education. She currently serves as Superintendent in Residence at McGraw Hill, where she continues her mission of advancing learning outcomes, leadership, and systemic transformation.
Sharing the Love: How Students and Educators Build Community With Harmony!
Sharing the Love: How Students and Educators Build Community With Harmony!
It’s that time of year to celebrate love in all its forms — love for ourselves, care for one another, and connection within our communities.
We asked our Educator Advisory Group to share how they use Harmony activities to help students thoughtfully exercise their voice and choice, build harmonious peer relationships, and nurture a strong sense of belonging in their learning spaces.
Student input is so crucial when it comes to Harmony in our academic spaces. Asking students to check in when arriving, and sharing how they feel about observable behaviors in the school community are just two routines that I incorporate on a daily basis with my 5th graders. This allows them to take ownership and hold themselves accountable through self-assessment. They have the opportunity to reflect on their choices, as well as on how the group can meet their personal and community goals. – Lee Eisen, 5th Grade, Brooklyn, New York
I incorporate the Harmony Curriculum in my Tier 2 small group meetings. During a small group meeting, it is important that every child feels “seen” and “heard”. I give every student an opportunity to use their voice by asking them open-ended questions that allow them to share their experiences and opinions. The other students practice active listening by leaning in and tracking with their eyes and bodies. They are also encouraged to ask follow-up questions, staying on the topic.
Many of the students I work with in small groups have suffered trauma in their lives. They are not usually the students who will actively raise their hands and participate in class when it is a large group. Small group settings offer a safe place for students to practice using their voice to gain self-confidence.
I love to offer students opportunities to show their learning in different ways during group time or during a counseling curriculum lesson. By offering students choices to demonstrate their learning, I can learn about the child’s preferred learning styles and their interests/talents. Sometimes students may choose to answer questions by drawing their answers, or using puppets/drama, or just talking about their answers instead of writing them. – Deborah Goodman, School Counselor, Elementary level, Las Vegas, Nevada
Student voice, student choice in all out-of- school time (OST) programming is the key to a successful structure. So many parts of the Harmony Curriculum can be used to design and implement quality programming.One of our favorite tools to use is the Quick Connection Cards to help youth find their voices! Our high school mentors, who support seven of our OST sites, love to lead these connections. Our youth love it too! Our mentors carry the printed cards in the back of their name tag badges to have an immediate plan to help as needed. We work with our mentor staff on how to modify or adjust a card as needed. This also gives our teens a voice and choice as well! These cards have been highly successful during our month-long summer program offering any teacher or staff member a fast, dependable way to engage with kids they may not be familiar with since many schools merge together for this camp experience. These cards really are a “quick connection” for any program! – Jennifer Wienke, Out-of-School Time Coordinator, Fairbanks, Alaska
Using the Harmony Everyday Practices helps our classroom community truly thrive.Each month, our class creates a Harmony Promise — with our Harmony Goals— for how we want to learn and grow together. These goals become part of our daily Morning Meeting, guiding the way we treat one another and approach our day. At the end of the month, students reflect together on what we’re doing well and what still needs work. Each month we revise our Harmony Promise based on their insights, ensuring that our classroom community is always growing, responsive, and student-driven! – Olivia Leone, 5th Grade, Milburn, New Jersey
I integrate the Harmony Curriculum with my students as a Reading Interventionist. Each day, I learn about how my students are feeling, what activities they participate in after school, and what they are interested in with the support of the Harmony Curriculum. I pull from a list of questions as well as the Quick Connection Cards to initiate conversation. The conversations prompt their writing.
I primarily teach early childhood students and the Quick Connection Cards assist myself and students in regard to my teaching of literacy. I’m able to learn what particular areas of reading and writing I need to work on with students through encoding, which allows me to see how students spell and write particular words. This informs how I teach students to decode. Decoding allows children to learn spelling patterns and blend sounds, which contributes to building fluency and confidence. I get to know students and their feelings.
These methods assist in continuing to establish and nurture relationships with students. – Stephanie M. Johnson, Reading Interventionist, Columbia, South Carolina
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“One must nurture the joy in one’s life so that it reaches full bloom.” – Maya Angelou
Many of us approach a new year by “resetting” goals and expectations in our classrooms and homes, using the calendar to instigate a fresh start or commit to resolutions. But what if we used the promise of the new year to intentionally cultivate joy for ourselves and our students? Most of us would welcome more joy in our lives in these times of uncertainty and conflict and it’s possible to design our classroom experiences with joy in mind.
Joy as a Way of Being
While joy is often thought of as fleeting and brought on by external circumstances, in The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World, Archbishop Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama posit that joy is a state of mind and heart — a way of being that doesn’t deny challenges and difficulties but rather embraces compassion and acknowledges our connectedness. Research provides multiple definitions of joy, with University of Cambridge scholar, Matthew Kuan Johnson, offering this helpful interpretation: “joy involves a state of positive affect, in which one experiences feelings of freedom, safety, and ease” (2019, p.6).
Joy facilitates our goals as educators, helping effective learning and development to take place.
Johnson cites research that joy provides children with,“the opportunity to learn new cognitive and behavioral skills and forge new social relationships and skills, which enhances resilience to future obstacles . . .” (2019, p. 6). In further support for creating joyful classroom environments, experiences that spark relational joy — moments shared by educators and their students — help to build connection and collective well-being (Karjalainen, et al., 2019).
Creating Joy-Nurturing Conditions
However we choose to define it, we can invite joy into our learning spaces by modeling a joyful state of mind and creating what I like to call joy-nurturing conditions.
It’s easy to be intimidated by the task given the challenges we and our students experience every day. But inviting joy does not need to be elaborate. It can be as simple as asking students what makes them feel free, safe, and at ease and working to incorporate their responses into your routines. In my own homeschool classroom, my children and I focus on micro-moments of joy, like having an impromptu dance party to celebrate even the tiniest win or taking a break to have ”poetry tea time” where they choose the poems we read. Below, you’ll find examples of the ways the Harmony Educator Advisory Group create joy-nurturing conditions and design for joy in their own classrooms . . .
We invite you to hear the classroom joy from across the nation!
“It’s easy to find joy in an elementary classroom. Many classrooms feel like a family — a place where students experience a true sense of belonging, feeling accepted, included, and safe. This supportive environment sets the stage for students to take risks and form meaningful connections to their learning. Joy is often seen and heard in those powerful moments when a student makes a breakthrough or when something they’ve been working hard on finally clicks. In those moments, learning feels like fireworks!”– Randi Peterson, Elementary Curriculum Developer, Bellevue School District
“I have seen the most joy from my students when they are collaborating and connecting with one another. It brings me true joy to listen and watch my students have genuine discussions during our turn and talks, and the excitement that they show while sharing with their classmates during our morning meeting. In our classroom we celebrate one another’s accomplishments, cheer one another on, and are each other’s biggest supporters.” – Aimee Gallant, 1st Grade Teacher, Hopewell City Public Schools
“The purest joy in my classroom isn’t seeing an A+; it’s watching the immediate, practical success of the Harmony Curriculum. It’s the collective sound of children truly connecting. There is nothing better than watching students execute the ‘Team Manuel Handshake’ during morning Meet Up, taking turns listening without interruption, and genuinely leaning in for the discussion cards. When the music starts, they eagerly find their partners for the movement activity — that is the sound ofempathy coming to life, laughing and sharing together. Their smiles are the sound of pure joy that makes teaching truly come alive.” – Anderson Manuel, 1st Grade Teacher, Sudbury Public Schools
“Each school year, building a nurturing classroom community sparks joy. A safe and caring learning environment is essential if we want our students to thrive. Relationship-building takes time and practice. As educators, when we provide students with opportunities to interact with each other, they develop positive attitudes and healthy relationships—fostering empathy, understanding, and caring.” – Sharyn Kang, 3rdGrade Teacher, Chula Vista Elementary School District
“In my classroom, JOY is everywhere! When I think of joy in my students and the community we’ve built, I think of affirmations. Our Harmony Class Goals (our class promises) are written as affirmation statements. We have an Affirmation Station, which is a mirror in the corner with affirmations around it for students to say to themselves, like “I am creative!” and “I am brave!”, and every single morning, we start the day together with an affirmation song. This not only sets the tone for the day, but for the entire school year! Affirmations lead to self-love, confidence, compassion, and support for each other. We celebrate what makes us unique and build upon those strengths!” – Josie McClain, 2nd grade teacher, Paloma Elementary School District
Works Cited
Dalai Lama, & Tutu, D. (2016). The book of joy: Lasting happiness in a changing world. (D. Abrams, Ed.). Avery.
Johnson, M. K. (2019). Joy: a review of the literature and suggestions for future directions. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 15(1), 5–24. https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2019.1685581
Karjalainen, S., Hanhimäki, E., & Puroila, A. M. (2019). Dialogues of joy: Shared moments of joy between teachers and children in early childhood education settings. International Journal of Early Childhood, 51(2), 129–143. https://doi.org/10.1007/s13158-019-00244-5
The fall leading into the holiday season is such a ripe time for gratitude. We are already engaged in celebrating the harvest at Thanksgiving and offering thanks with friends and family. But our lives are full and often rushed and gratitude can become something we may remember to do only on the holiday itself. So how do we ground ourselves in gratitude as a mindset throughout the holiday season and beyond?
This year, my son is a senior in high school. I have no idea how we arrived at this moment so quickly. And precisely because I know it’s the last year with him living at home, I am keenly aware of savoring every moment. There are plenty of milestones through a child and teen’s years that call us to that kind of savoring. Whether it’s the year your baby first walked, or the year when a big family gathering is possible, or the year when your kindergartener is wearing his superhero costume everywhere you go, these may not be possible the following year and are moments to treasure.
Although gratitude can exist as a feeling or mood, we are capable of cultivating more gratitude in our lives by becoming intentional about generating it and staying in its goodness.
Robert Emmons, a gratitude researcher, defines gratitude as “a sense of thankfulness and joy in response to receiving a gift, whether the gift be a tangible benefit from a specific other or a moment of peaceful bliss evoked by natural beauty.” Although gratitude can exist as a feeling or mood, we are capable of cultivating more gratitude in our lives by becoming intentional about generating it and staying in its goodness. Research offers many compelling reasons to do so. Gratefulness has been linked to greater health and well-being and is capable of preventing major diseases like heart disease. Studies have found that grateful teens not only have fewer physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, and runny noses, but also have more life satisfaction, are more optimistic, and feel more connected to friends and family.
Let’s take a look at four simple ways we can ground ourselves and our family in gratitude more fully throughout this holiday season.
Set an Intention as a Family
An intention, particularly when it’s made as a family, helps ensure that your hopes are followed up with actions. An intention statement can simply be: “We, as a family, will generate gratitude for the goodness in our lives daily throughout the holiday season.” Perhaps you introduce the topic at a family dinner. Or try out a Family Meet Up within the Harmony at Home app to gather your family with an easy agenda to guide you. While you are meeting, you might also access some gratitude prompts or Conversation Starters within the app to help you focus on gratitude. When you hold your family discussion, be sure you ask family members how they would best like to think about gratitude daily. Be sure you are specific and if you need to, schedule it. When you decide on actions you’ll take together, you can work as a team and share ownership for grounding the season in gratitude.
Create Regular Pauses for Reflection
Did you know that a research study found that children who say grace or give thanks before or during meals develop more gratitude than their peers? Simply pausing when you sit down to eat together and appreciating the food you have, your own health and well-being, and your ability to savor time with one another can create a grateful mindset. Researchers also point to the fact that children who ask questions about where things come from and why they are the way they are can generate gratitude. One way to do this is by tracing the origins of your meal. You might ask: Where did our corn come from? Is it from an Ohio farm? If so, who was involved in the seeding and harvesting and where did it go from there? When doing that kind of reflection, you may realize that the corn on your plate was likely handled by ten or more people before it got to you. All of those people have jobs and families and hopes and cares and have impacted your life through their work. You may also consider other times of the day or family routines that may create opportunities for the gratitude pause like a longer road trip in the car, your morning commute, afternoon snack time, or bedtime.
Practice Identifying Emotions With Your Child
Research confirms that children’s understanding and ability to find gratitude by age five is strengthened when they have a better understanding of their own and others’ emotions. Why? It’s because gratitude is experienced as a feeling and children’s raised self-awareness contributes to better understanding their own sensations and interpretations of experiences. Use this holiday season as a way to begin doing daily feelings check-ins to help build your child’s emotional vocabulary. When you check in on feelings together, not only does your child get a chance to identify his/her own, but they also hear what you are experiencing. This builds their social awareness. Check out the Harmony at Home app for the daily feelings check-in, which prompts you with words and emojis to make it simple and fun!
Cultivate a New Gratitude-Centered Family Ritual
Creating your own family ritual around gratitude sends a signal to all family members that gratitude is important and worthy of your reflective time together. Check out the Harmony at Home app’s Do Together: Creating a Gratitude Jar. Make your own gratitude tree where you bring in a large branch. Place it in a safe container, vase, or pot. Each day, family members can write what they are feeling grateful for in that moment and place the notes as leaves on the branches of your gratitude tree. With young children, you may work together and spend some time brainstorming ideas with questions such as:
– Who do we love spending time with? (That could be one gratitude note). – What’s our favorite activity to do at home? – What pet or animal do we love? – What do we love about our family? – How do specific family members make our lives better? – What friends do we appreciate and love to spend time with?
You’ll find that when you as a parent or caregiver become more intentional and reflective on the gratitude you are feeling, your family will follow. Children will learn from you, experience your feelings, and begin to feel and express more gratitude themselves. I cannot imagine a more important gift this holiday season in order to become more present to one another and truly appreciate all of the goodness the holiday season has to offer you and your family.
About Jennifer S. Miller, M.Ed
For over thirty years, Jennifer Miller has worked with educators and families to help them become more effective with children and teens by understanding and supporting their learning and development. She authored and illustrated the book Confident Parents, Confident Kids; Raising Emotional Intelligence In Ourselves and Our Kids — from Toddlers to Teenagers and founded the organization by the same name twelve years ago growing an international platform through her blog with more than 24K followers in 152 countries world-wide and a diverse team of seven writers. She has worked with Sanford Harmony over the past year to build Harmony at Home, a parent-child application for home-based skill building. She has served as a regular expert contributor to NBC’s TODAY Parenting, PBS, WNET, and Parent Magazine.
